Carpe Diem: November 2014

It was just recently that we were sitting in Looking Forward To Higher Education (LF2HE).

Yes, i know what you're thinking. We do, as a matter of fact, have such a class. Either way, it's better than classes i had to sit through in high school, take Moral & Civics for example. Our teacher, Sarah was talking about universities. It was the most interesting class so far. Our jaws dropped when we saw the interview video for Cambridge, it dropped further when we saw the amazing facilities in Manchester. Finally, our jaws just gave in to shock, and gravity and clattered onto the ground when we saw the tuition fees. Good God, it made and still makes me wish that I had multiple offshore accounts as well as those cliche magic purses from Enid Blyton that never ran out of money. Sarah then moved on to talk about college and universities as well as the friends you might make in the future. She was saying that it is unusual for the people you meet in the first week to continue being in your circle of intimates in the future. It was the truth.

I'm pretty sure you think the title of the post is a little dodgy but do try to put it in a mathematical term. The age of a person with each passing year acts as the x-axis (a manipulated variable) and the "genuinity" of people that come along acts as the y-axis(responding variable). If you could gage the "genuinity" of people that come along as you grow with each passing year and plot the graph. I'm pretty sure there would be a fall in the "genuinity" scale.

I know I've done a few posts on something similar to this. But it is true. It is so hard to find good friends. I knew that, even in high school but I've been blessed. It's so difficult to find friends that share the same interests, "frequency" and chemistry. Now in college, it's pretty much the same thing not forgetting the fact that I'm in a whole other country. It's hard to find friends who genuinely like you for you, friends who accept your flaws and imperfections as well as friends who will be there for you through thick or thin.

The sad fact is that it gets harder as you grow up.

As we mature into adults to venture into the world, our priorities get 50 shades screwed up. Life's simple pleasures get blurred out by issues of the modern society. It is beyond depressing when you actually think about it. When we were kids, we never worried what society might think of us. We never worried if we were judged by our peers. I don't think we even knew what the whole "society is judgemental and ugly" concept was. We spent time worrying about little things that seemed like the end of the world to us when it is indeed child's play compared to whatever we're facing now. Our world was a few blocks wide. We were of pure and innocent thoughts and motives, without envy or negativity. We never worried what we were going to be in the future as we were convinced that it will all work out. There was a song my family sang to me, titled "Que Sera Sera" by Doris Day.

When I was just a little girl
I asked my mother, "What will I be?
Will I be pretty, will I be rich?"
Here's what she said to me

"Que Sera, Sera
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be"

As we grow and mature, hypocrisy, jealousy, rivalry, arrogance, manipulation and insecurities come into view. Some are even overwhelmed by the will to succeed that they are willing to step on others to achieve it. It's important to achieve one's dreams and reach the peak of success, but none of that matters if all you're left with are the bitter memories of how you've tossed friendship aside and stomped on others to reach where you are, where you're alone in spirit. Some take advantage of the goodwill of the friends where some have hidden motives in their kind gestures. The world is filled with all sorts of people with different priorities. Some dark, some screwed up, some selfish, some manipulative and the list goes on and on. As i said, the level of "genuinity" in people you meet falls as you grow up. Again the y-axis changes as the digits on the x-axis move further from the 0.

When you were younger, people actually wanted to be your friend because of who you truly are. However as you grow up, people want to be your friend because of what you are.

Sad fact, ain't it.

If you've found someone with pure, transparent & genuine priorities, then you're already blessed. In this crazy, screwed up world, that's considered a blessing. Cherish them, because they're one in a kazillion. Don't waste your time on those who are not worthy of it.

Carpe Diem and live the moment, and c'est la vie because that's life.