"Originality"

Exactly, twat. 

                                                           If the shoe fits, lace it up.

Wake up and Live.

I am so happy here.

Words can't describe how happy I am to be in UK.

North Wales is beautiful. The fresh air is great. The food is so good. My senses have never been so alive. The people are mostly great. College is absolutely amazing. The education system is a dream. It's a different culture, so different yet so alike from what I've seen in movies. You meet different people from different backgrounds. You get exposed. You socialise. You learn. You grow.

Most importantly, you live. 

Just one thing, I don't get why people are looking forward to see me miserable. Yes, I know I might be overreacting and behaving like a drama queen and it sounds absolutely horrible when I put it that way but honestly, most people are just waiting to hear that I'm homesick and want to go back. (A couple of them are betting I'd balloon up in the winter as well). Dad says it's because it has usually been like that for decades. They live with the mentality that once people go abroad to study, they will miss home like crazy, lose their appetite, lock the doors of the room and bawl their eyes out. Probably losing the will to live for a few months in the process. You're in a new country. Explore, learn, live. Frankly, if you're not going to take a step out to venture into the world and if you're not going to fill the chapters of your life with memories, you're really wasting your time and your parents' money.

Here's the deal though, I'm not homesick and don't want to go back home at the moment.

I do miss my family, loved ones and my friends and the food back home. I just don't talk or think about it because there is absolutely no point in moping about when there's so much for you to explore and learn. There are so many beautiful reasons to be happy. The reasons for one to be happy outweighs the reasons not to be.

And there's that saying that goes "The world is your oyster". It's time to wake up and live.

The quote says it all.

Hugs.

Today, we will be talking about- that's right, Hugs.

Dedicated to those kids out there who don't get much hugs.

Let's talk about hugs within a family. I really think that hugs are one of the necessities in a child's life. Unfortunately, some parents are blinded by the thought that hugs and reassurance are only necessary until the child reaches the adolescent stage. BZZZ! Wrong. Hugs become excessively more important during the adolescent stage where your child blossoms into a teenager where he or she will face the infamous peer pressure.

"No parent will ever understand what it's like being a teenager." - One of the most typical sayings by teenagers.

Of course, most parents will defend and say that they were once teenagers too. That is undeniably true. Having said that, I cannot comprehend how and why parents who claimed that they were once teenagers do not understand why teenagers need even more love, hugs and reassurance as they reach the teenage stage. Hugs also tightens the bond between a parent and a child. So parents , hug your child no matter how old or young they are!

People who know me well know that I absolutely love hugs. I'm a hugger. I love to give hugs as well as be hugged.

Personally, I feel that hugs symbolises love, encouragement, comfort & trust. It radiates warmth & happiness. *Granted that it is by someone I actually like.

If I'm comfortable with you, you'd see me reaching for a hug when we meet or before we part. 

So, for all of you who don't really get hugs, here ya go. *HUGS*

Cheers :)

Homosexuality

Homosexuality.

Everyone has thoughts on homosexuality/ LGBT.

When i say everyone, I mean absolutely everyone.

In my case, this topic comes up during family reunions, Chinese New Year house visitations, meal times, coffee dates and even during random spur-of-the-moments. 

Merely listening to people talk negatively about this irritates me. Unfortunately, out of all the conversations I have had or I have eavesdropped on, the majority would say awful, insulting & discriminative things about it. That would be the narrow-minded people of traditional, religious and conservative backgrounds with the P&P (prim and proper) trait. I have always felt nauseated & awful just listening to them beat around the bush just to point out one point - that they do not agree with it.

I understand that in most religions, homosexuality is frowned upon. 

I understand that homosexuality also contradicts the traditional beliefs.

What i don't understand is, what does trashing, hating, bullying and discrimination against homosexuals do for you? Realistically, how does it benefit you?

Seriously, from the point of an 18 year old, I honestly do not understand what benefit, being a bigot and discriminating homosexuals bring to a person. I have heard so many awful remarks and insults and religious criticisms about it. I don't get how people are so ridiculously daft. Criticizing them isn't going to change a thing. 

I've heard so much about this from the mouths of the lonely, sad & bitter who criticize the homosexuals who are, by the way, extremely happy with who they are and their life partner. 

That's right. I've underlined the word HAPPY. 

Why can't people just leave the homosexuals alone as they are already as happy as it is? In my opinion, a few of the many things people search a lifetime for, happens to be happiness and love.

If someone has found that happiness and love with their partner, be it of a same or different sex, leave them be in peace. I don't think anyone has the right to dictate another person's preference or even try to change their preference.

Yes, it is understandable that the traditional and the conservative do not agree with such a thing but they should not openly discriminate and should never, ever use religion to shame the homosexuals because that says more about them that it does for homosexuals.

You don't have to embrace it, just accept it.

My personal statement? (taken from my ask.fm)

Well, according to my religion , LGBT is wrong and sinful. However, to me, I strongly believe that people can't help it. You can't help who you're attracted to. Everyone is made differently. I really believe that people don't see it from a completely different side and that isn't fair. I'm not promoting LGBT or asking people to suddenly walk up and start to be acquainted and become best friends but hey, don't "throw rocks", discriminate and openly judge them. I understand that the heterosexuals might have strong opinions on gays and lesbians but don't get physical, stop the name calling, stop the open judging, stop the discrimination. ( Unless they repeatedly hit on you then its a different case). It is their sex life after all, not yours. Judge them silently, everyone does, but don't get physical. In the end, they need somebody to love as well and in the world, there is somebody out there for everybody, even if they are of the same sex. They are made for a purpose because God doesn't make beautiful pieces of life he would throw asid. So yeah, you don't have to adopt a homosexual into your life immediately but the least you should do is to give them a chance and not just discriminate and shun them from society. God taught us to love and accept others, and I'm pretty sure he means everybody.

We are living in the 21st century, each of us have the freedom of speech, our own opinions. This however is my opinion. It's time for the narrow-minded to open up and look at the world in front of them.

P/s For those narrow minded bigots, FYI blogging about homosexuality/ LGBT and my opinion about it does not mean I'm about to come out of the closet, it just means I'm open enough to face the reality of what is and accept it. As i said, you don't have to embrace it, just accept it.

The Categories of Friendship.

The quote says it all.

It wasn't until recently when i was having a deep conversation with a really close friend of mine about this particular topic. 

I went to sleep that night thinking, "Wow, she's so right."

"After high school, you'll find out who your true friends are."

Who was there for you just for a season.

Who stayed friends with you for their own reasons. 

And, Who will always be there for you no matter what. 

Every single time my mind wanders back to this, it hurt me a little, to know that what once was so many different types of friendships turned out to be just a memory of the past. 

When you thought you were important to a certain person and it turns out you aren't as important as you thought you were. 

When you thought you would be missing them like crazy and it turns out that you didn't need them that much.

When you were so close to people you thought were your friends for life, and will always be there for you and those people turned out to be there just for a season, or worst, for their own selfish reasons.

I guess this is called growing up. Most of the friends i made happened to be there just for a season. We had a good time, made amazing memories which will be with me forever as a mark of the past of what once was. I have a couple of friends who actually stayed in my life for their own selfish reasons. Those really hurt but hold your head high and smile. Karma's gon' bite them in the ass one day. The real world isn't all rainbows and butterflies, it's beautiful but you've got to look through the madness, judgement and darkness first.

However, the beautiful part? 

When you meet honest people who actually love you for who you are, accepts your flaws and imperfections and are genuinely sincere, hold on to them. 

Because they fall into the third category, Friends for a Lifetime.

& I am so blessed to have them.

That one annoying Bitch.

That one annoying bitch.

She hates you.
She hates your guts.
She glares at you whenever she can.
She has that high pitch, good girl, disgusting, suck up voice.
She thinks she's a saint, a martyr and she's holier than you.
She spreads rumors about you when you are totally innocent.
She finds ways to sabotage you whenever she sees an opportunity.
She becomes friends with your friends.
She turns everyone against you.
She's a mean hypocrite and is sugar-sweet and nice to you in front of your friends.
She sometimes ostracizes you when you're in a group.
She does all of it for no apparent reason.


Seriously. I can say I am not done talking about this bitch. If you flip open dictionaries and search the word "bitch", her IC number, passport picture and name will pop up as the definition.

Of all the times I have done something wrong, I can promise I am absolutely innocent this time.
For the past 3 years I've been just backing down and letting it go because of the "status quo" and the absurd "cliche" ideology they have going. She doesn't upset me.

I upset myself.

I am Ace. I don't deserve to be treated this way. I remember what and how it's like, being able to bury someone just like that with a snap of my fingers. It was so easy. I gave that up when i step foot there because i thought it would be the right thing to do. Right now, I beg to differ. Judgemental assholes deserves no different from the past idiots I've dealt with.

No, seriously, I'm actually really really bitchy and mean if you give me a reason to be.

The next time the bitch pisses me off, no more holding back.